If you are looking to notch up the heat in the bedroom and explore BDSM, then whips and floggers will be a good place to start. Think BDSM and very dark images come to mind. Dark dungeon like room filled with chains, whips, and bondage. Critics call BDSM anti-woman and a support to heteronormative gender norms, but if one looks at the true of history of BDSM, it is all about finding yourself and taking responsibility for it. Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism and Masochism, or BDSM, is often portrayed in a wrong and ignorant way throughout history. It has become a lifestyle, that has a set of rules, costumes and culture.
Be it Thomas Shadwell’s ‘The Virtuoso’ or John Cleland’s ‘Fanny Hill’, England, France and some parts of Germany, from the 16th and 19th century, experienced a blossoming of erotic literature and art. Victorian Britain, with the help of explorer Richard Burton, created myth around the Indian text, the Kamasutra. The various titillating postures could be read as merely sexual positions but the book is actually enlightenment, a guide for both men and women to better their lives by acquiring better understandings of themselves, their partner(s) and the world around them. In Germany, it came out of the closet in the twentieth century. The war left a generation of men and women hating the old way of life. As a sign of liberation, they created clubs to express their sexuality and to have fun through it. Gradually, fascism ruined and destroyed these clubs. Hitler destroyed and persecuted this sexual freedom, but these clubs could not be completely destroyed. They just went underground.
In America, BDSM existed in 1940s and 50s mainly due to underground publication of ‘sex’ magazines. These magazines are mainly responsible for the modern-day perception of relating BDSM to high heeled shoes, leather, latex dresses.
Bettie Page was one personality who revolutionized sexuality with her powerful image and innocent smile. It is said that
the sexual revolution of the 1960s happened because of her and so did relaxing of censorship. She inspired generations of women to embrace their sexuality whether they want to be submissive or a dominatrix. It was during this time, BDSM started breaking from its dark background and become an artistic, more accepted movement. BDSM uses various kinds of tools of pleasure like ball gag, bondage cuffs, whips, paddles, and cohesive bondage among others.
Whips are used in BDSM role-plays by a dominant to inflict pleasurable pain on the consenting submissive. There are different techniques to use whips properly. If used incorrectly, it may not be enjoyable and it can possibly be dangerous. There are different types of whips with different purposes. Like a Sana whip or flogger is made with soft leather, PVC or silicone. It is a wider multi tailed whip that is designed to not hurt that much. No matter what intensity of flogging you like, there are a few ground rules you and your partner need to follow. The first rule would be to make sure your partner is someone you trust before considering such play and it is important to discuss the matter at length beforehand to discuss boundaries. If this is your first time, take it slow and be open about how much is too much. And don’t start anything with too much force, instead build up the force gradually. Last but not the least keep a safe word.
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